“So, the most important aspect of discipline isn’t discipline at all. It’s this: Find the love. Find what you love about what you do, and channel that each and every day.”
~from The Freelancer’s Survival Guide by Kristine Kathryn Rusch
I have always thought of myself as a lazy person, as someone who wouldn’t do all the things that I do unless I made myself.
I am slowly discovering that this isn’t really true. Not for the most part.
Instead, I see that I do the things I do, I am self disciplined, because of love.
I may not love everything I do but I love parts, or the process, or the end result.
It has been love, then, that gives me self discipline.
A surprising lesson for me. Just as I see now that I don’t have to do it all, do everything, be perfect…just as I see now that I can trust in Mary, her mother’s love instead of rushing to do everything, even in my faith life….So now I see the role of love in discipline and in self discipline. It doesn’t have to be a harried, must do To Do list. It can be a “I want to do” To Do list.
So how does this translate to unschooling? Where is the role of love, and of self discipline?
They are inter-related even here. We encourage our children to find areas they love and as they pursue their love, the self discipline kicks in. The love for piano and for the music helps make practice less of a chore, for example.
Or we model and encourage our children to find love in the process of undertaking something that of itself may not be a love. Enjoying music while cleaning and then bringing out a new toy or book or sitting down together to relax in the now cleaned room is one activity that springs to mind.
Self discipline, then, springs more easily when we focus on love. We can learn it along the way.
I should have listened to them myself. Slow learner that I am.