On pushing

There are times when we, and our children, need a little nudge. A push. A ” I know you can do this” or a ” Give it a try.”

 There are times when it’s better to wait for that nudge to come from within. If you police my weight loss efforts I am likely to get mad or to sabotage. If I wait for that click, it works. I want to. I make myself.

 I have seen the same click with reading and with times tables. No matter how a teacher may push, a child seems to get these when inner click goes, well, click!

 There are also fallow times. Times when we need to ostensibly do nothing or when we need to saturate ourselves in an activity….be it a book or every Godfather movie in a row a video game, for example.

 What do we homeschoolers do then? Go with it. Go with the passion, the craze, the visible doing nothing. Because it is really impossible to do nothing and learn nothing.

Sometimes if we push we miss out on a learning experience, one that can’t be replaced, one that is owned by the child. Or ourselves. One that is requiring reflection.

 So do we push our children and ourselves? Sometimes. And sometimes we hold back and just be. And sometimes we wait for that inner click.

 Tiger Mother and Unschooling Mama.

2 thoughts on “On pushing”

  1. I find this one of the hardest parts of mothering, knowing when to push and when to back off and wait. Sometimes I nudge and then wait, sometimes a nudge is all they need, sometimes I have to nudge, wait and then give a firmer nudge.

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